This is the heart of many BDSM activities — giving up power (or taking it) on purpose. One partner leads, one follows. It can be long-term or just for one hookup. Some people play 24/7 with collars, rituals, and contracts. Others dip into it for a night. This is one of the top kinks in long-term kink relationships. Aftercare: emotional check-ins and reassurance that the exchange was wanted, not taken.
A sadist likes to cause pain — in a consensual way. That doesn’t mean they’re cruel. It means they get off on creating sensation, reactions, and control. Some focus on physical pain, others go for emotional push buttons. Sadism is common in many s&m kink scenes, especially with bdsm categories that include spanking, flogging, or degradation. Aftercare: make sure the person receiving the pain feels cared for and safe afterward.
Sadomasochism is the full dance — one partner gives pain, the other takes it. The energy goes back and forth. It’s a kind of erotic chaos that some people absolutely crave. You’ll see it in bdsm kink, kink sex, and even in freaky kinks where both people are laughing and crying at the same time. Aftercare: for both partners is about physical comfort and emotional grounding.
Submission is when one partner gives up control. It might mean kneeling, saying “yes Sir,” or following a dom’s every word. Or it could mean simply letting go and trusting someone to lead. Submitting doesn’t mean weakness — it takes strength to surrender. Submissives often crave structure, guidance, and approval. Aftercare: involves soft words, rehydration, and praise — it helps bring them back from subspace gently.
Probably one of the most popular kinks and easiest to try out. A good old-fashioned spanking is hot, raw, and simple. It can be done with a hand, paddle, belt, or anything that makes a smack. Some people like it soft and rhythmic. Others want to be marked. It's one of those kinks to try that requires zero gear, just enthusiasm. Aftercare: rub the area, kiss the sore spots, and offer plenty of cuddles.
Ass worship is exactly what it sounds like: giving total, devoted attention to someone’s ass. Kissing, licking, biting, rubbing, sniffing — it’s all fair game. It can be part of kinky things to do in bed, or a full-blown kink on its own. Some worshippers treat the booty like royalty, mixing in praise, moaning, or just silent admiration. It’s often paired with dominance and submission play. Aftercare: might include cuddles, verbal praise, or cleaning up together, especially if it was part of a longer BDSM activity.
This one's not for the shy. Omorashi is the kink of pee desperation — holding it, squirming, and sometimes letting go on purpose. Some like watching someone struggle to hold it in. Others enjoy wetting themselves or being wet on. It can feel vulnerable, humiliating, or deeply erotic. For some kinksters, it mixes well with humiliation or control kinks. Aftercare: clean-up is key. Hydration after, washing skin, and emotional aftercare if the scene was intense are all important.
This is one of those kinks people have that often starts with curiosity and turns full-on filthy. Sniffing someone’s used panties is about smell, intimacy, and forbidden pleasure. The scent links to arousal, closeness, and sometimes power. Some treat it like a fetish object — others get off just knowing it’s “dirty.” Panty sniffing can be solo or part of a dom/sub dynamic. It shows up in many fetishes and kinks lists and tends to overlap with voyeurism or taboo kink cravings. Aftercare: mostly hygiene, and maybe a talk about boundaries.
Shaving play isn’t just grooming — it’s about control, trust, and intimacy. One person shaves the other — pubic hair, legs, armpits, or anywhere. The feeling of a sharp blade on skin, the closeness, the vulnerability — it hits deep. It shows up in bdsm kink scenes where one partner is being “prepared” or “presented” for use. It can also tie into kinky fetishes about body control. Aftercare: includes rinsing, moisturizing, and possibly cuddles if the scene was emotionally heavy.
Also called "watersports," urine play is all about peeing on or being peed on. It can be about ownership, humiliation, submission, or just pure filth — in a good way. Some folks love the warmth and wetness. Others like the emotional intensity of being “used.” It’s one of those weird sex kinks that’s surprisingly common in kink communities, though rarely talked about publicly. Aftercare: shower time. Hydration. Skin care. And a check-in to make sure everyone’s still feeling sexy, not shamey.